Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Where have all the good guys gone?

Really though, does anyone know the answer to this question??
I am a single twenty-one year old girl, and I am convinced there are no good guys left in the world.
Sure, we have the guys who we *think* are good, but they end up being just like everyone else.
I felt the need to write this out because I get so darn frustrated with guys.
I know I am 21, and I have a whole life ahead of me and plenty of time to find a guy, but it's not about that.
It really doesn't have to be complicated, but in my life it always seems to end up complicated.
Don't get me wrong -- I'm not the kinda girl who goes out hoping it will result in a boyfriend. I really don't think I want to have a boyfriend because 1, there are no guys worthy of such a title 2, boys always bring drama with them and I am not in need of excess drama in my life and 3, I do enjoy being single and going out when I want, doing what I want with whomever I want to.
This still doesn't keep me from occasionally thinking that a guy has *some* potential. But that ends up being a big N-O!
So what's the deal?
I would indeed play the age card, saying that most 21 year old guys do not want to be in a relationship (cause most 21 year old guys I know are trying to cling to their youth and live it up before they have to be real people). But, I talk to guys who range from 21-28. And they are ALL the same. They're immature, indecisive, non-committal, players, have crazy exes, ect, ect, ect.
I guess I'm just tired of the games, and the lies, and the saying one thing and then completely doing another.
I know that no guy is truly perfect, and maybe I'm cynical (due to the 3 1/2 relationship that completely drained me).
But, I would like to think that some good guys exist somewhere?
I read so many beautiful stories about amazing guys on peoples blogs and it makes me so happy some people can experience that.
Clearly New Jersey is not the place to find a good guy. (really though, some people cling to the stereotypes and the GTLing a little too much)
Maybe I need to venture below the Mason Dixon line and be charmed by a cute little preppy Southern boy with that adorable accent (okay, so maybe that's in my dream world)
This all probably sounds quite pathetic, and that's fine. But, I just wonder sometimes why guys are complete aholes!!
Get some feelings, and realize that you're going to need to grow up sometime!!!
End of my rant, my apologies!
Hope you all have a faboosh night!


Kori said...

Honey I'm 34 and wonder that everyday...just pray. You will find your prince charming. Kori xoxo

Michelle said...

bring it on.. you come on down south to the land of the pines! :) ps: im in the same boat

Mandy said...

oh my god i feel the same way!!! and i obviously want to move to the south as well to find one lol just drive down from jersey, pick me up in ohio, and we'll venture on down :)

Samantha said...

My BFF says the same thing. All of her best friends are either married or engaged and she is single and hates it lol.